Family Ties That Last: Building New Memories at the Purple Door House
I’ve been thinking a lot about my goals for the Purple Door house. Throughout the renovation process, I am making decisions that I hope will help build a space that brings us closer as a family, and helps build lasting family ties. I want our quaint little country home to be a place we all feel safe and secure, a place we can retreat to as a family, and build lasting memories that our family will cherish forever.
Making New Memories
Tonight is the first night the entire family will be spending the night at The Purple Door. If you aren’t familiar with the Purple Door, it’s a little place that is located on the piece of property we purchased after selling our land with the log cabin. We’ve been renovating it for a few months and I’ve been doing videos of the progress on my Facebook Page. Catch up HERE.
As I’ve grown older, I have noticed that I am not big on change, especially the change that happens what seems like overnight to growing children. I have always wanted them to stay the same age they are—I know. Sappy, ridiculous. After the kids are asleep, I sneak in and just stare at them. They are truly a miracle, and my heart is so full sometimes I think I’ll explode! I say to myself every night, “Don’t forget this.” You know there are times that everything seems so perfect when all the kids are together laughing or even debating that I say the same thing, “Don’t forget this.”
I take myriads of photos, shoot videos, and write in journals, but the memories fade. I look at the photos, but it’s just not the same as experiencing that time. Sometimes, I don’t even remember when the picture was taken after reminding myself in the moment not to forget this time. Therefore, I don’t even really want to look at old pictures because they make me sad. Am I alone in this?
I know. I know. I have done what I am supposed to have done, and am still doing what I am supposed to be doing. I know AND want the kids to fulfill their purposes, which means leaving home one day to pursue what God has put in their hearts to pursue.
They are meant to grow up, spread the gospel, share the gifts that God has given them, be creative, invent, help the world—this is what we have taught them to do.
As I look back and see that I can barely remember some of the most amazing times, it came to me memories aren’t about the place, or what gifts you may have been given on a particular birthday. Memories are about the feeling you had when you were at that place, the relationships that grow because of a thoughtful gift. Ultimately it’s about the people you are with.
I am thrilled that my grown children love to come home and be with us. I am going to soak this up for as long as I can. I’ll concentrate on making new memories and teach them to make memories with their kids. The memories I want in my kid’s minds and someday their kid’s minds are those of me loving them.
I want to encourage you to enjoy every minute in your life. You are creating the memories in the hearts of those around you by the laughter and joy your bring, your kindness, the way you make your husband and kids feel about themselves and the world around you. It is unlikely that they will remember many specific times, but they will remember your love for them and your attitude towards life. Leave a memory of hope!